Married life

Respect for Privacy
It’s important for couples to not have secrets from each other. To be open and honest with each other. Yet it is important as well to give one another some space for growth and privacy.
For us, respect for privacy is when you share an iPad where both your emails are registered and your spouse could read your emails and vice versa. Yet neither one touches the other’s inbox, much less read what’s inside. It speaks a lot I guess, on how we trust each other. Thankful.

When do you love me most?
I read once that when a guy says a woman she’s beautiful, first thing in the morning, when she’s just woken up, devoid of any makeup and with disheveled hair at that, that’s true love.
Hubs made yet again one of my dreams come true when he said it so one evening. And it dawned on me why I get warm bear hugs from him in the mornings and how he looks at me funny, like he’s swooning. šŸ˜€

9 years

Last Friday, January 28, I celebrated my 9 years as a Process Engineer. And indeed it is a celebration. For I believe that God has blessed me with a career that is truly fulfilling for me. Ever the drama queen that I am,Ā that very day and now a SeniorĀ Engineer,Ā I also submitted my resignation letter; sort of like my way ofĀ “coming to full circle”.

Today was my last working day in the office. When I got home this evening, it was only then that I realized that my last working day and my first day as a “freed” engineer (please, i’m not saying this in the pejorative sense) coincided with the last day of theĀ previous Chinese Year (okay okay i’m not Chinese, just having some drama and trying to make some correlation here hehe). In some sense, it’s like i’ll be working on a clean slate or a clean drawing board this new year. A new year full of promise, full of hope, full of exciting things yet to come.

At this point you may be wondering why i’m posting this in our wedsite and not just on my personal blog. But no, wait.Ā Today also marks the first day that I’m totally Atsushi’s dependent. Well, until after I get to find a job again, hopefully. And for somebody like me who has been a very independent person, who has totally relied on the abilities God gave her (and on the opportunities God gave her) to earn her keep, feed herself and help provide for her family, being dependent like this is a major crossover. One that I have to learn and yet to fully grasp.

And yes, this isĀ part of whatĀ marriage is about. It’s about shaking you in your old comfort zone to bring you to a yet better comfort zone. It’s about shaking you from what you’ve been used to, leading you to better experiences, newer places, meeting new people. It’s about having faith – faith in God that what you’re doing and about to do isĀ part of God’sĀ beautiful plan for you; faith in your husband that he will love you, take care of you and provide for you; faith in the goodness of the people around you; faith in the future that something really good is in store for you.

And of course, yes, there’s love, great love.


Feb 5: Was cleaning my workspace today. Found a lot of diskettes from a long-gone era. Haha. Gosh. Ancient.

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